KRQE – In a new national survey on Mother’s Day and Father’s Day and if they fell on the same day, 78% of adult children would choose to celebrate Mom over Dad.
The survey revealed people thought they’d get a much bigger guilt trip from their mother than they would from their father. – Survey: Choosing to celebrate Mom or Dad
Here’s what the survey reveals:
The men and women who chose Mom over Dad say it’s because:
- Mom deserves the attention
- They have more in common with Mom
- It’s the least they can do after Mom went through nine months of pregnancy and labor
- Mom is their favorite parent and
- Mother’s Day seems to be a bigger holiday than Father’s Day, and they feel obligated to celebrate Mom over Dad.
Why visit Mom on Mother’s Day?
- 90% say I love her and want to spend time with her.
- More than half (59%) say because they want to set a good example for their kids.
- Nearly 1 in 4 (22%) say they feel obligated to visit Mom on Mother’s Day – and – Mom might give them a guilt trip if they didn’t.
Whose Mother’s Day is it?
- More than half of women (57%) say even though they have kids now, this day is for their mom.
- More than 1 in 3 sons agree. 39% say Mother’s Day is for their mom over their wife.
Perhaps we make Mother’s Day such a big deal because we don’t feel we do enough for Mom the rest of the year.
- 60% admit they sometimes feel guilty about not spending enough time with Mom.
- Yet, more than 1 in 4 (26%) say when they do spend time with Mom, after about four hours they get antsy.
What’s so stressful about Mother’s Day?
More than 1 in 4 (26%) say Mother’s Day has caused stress – and – nearly 1 in 4 (23%) say they have had conflict over Mother’s Day plans.
- The majority of the conflict (57%) is about where to spend Mother’s Day (ie: their mom’s house, their house, a restaurant, etc.)
- About 1 in 4 women (21%) say they’re moms now, and they wish the day could just be about them.
- More than 1 in 3 men (30%) say they’re torn between celebrating their wife and their mother.
- More than 1 in 4 (28%) say with the modern family, there are too many moms to please (ie: wife, mom, step mom, etc.)
Are we giving gifts Mom wants?
Mother’s Day has become one of the biggest holidays for consumer spending. This year experts predict spending will top more than $20 billion! The Visiting Angels survey found the majority of adult children spend a total of $51-$100 on Mother’s Day gifts.
What gifts do adult children plan to give Mom this year?
- Top gift: a card
- Second: flowers
- Equally tied for third: phone call, dinner out or quality time with them and the children
When moms were asked what they really want for Mother’s Day, they said:
- Equally tied for the top gift: a card and dinner out
- Equally tied for 2nd: homemade gifts and “my kids are so busy, I’d rather have quality time with my family than any gift.”
- Equally tied for 3rd: spa, flowers, phone call
Turns out, Mom is getting a gift she really wants. Studies show more phone calls are made on Mother’s Day than any other day of the year. More than three in four (77%) adult children say they’d rather talk to Mom on the phone. But they agree that she could be a better listener.
This online survey was done by a third party and commissioned by Visiting Angels. Survey participants (150 men, 150 women) have no affiliation with Visiting Angels.